I have heard stories of women complaining about a man showing up drunk on a first date. Dating should be a way to build a relationship—at least, that’s what this blog is focusing on. I don’t see why a woman would want to start a relationship with a man who shows up drunk on a first date. Showing up drunk to a date will not send a positive message.
Bad Frist Impression
Making a good first impression is the most important thing about a first date. Showing up drunk will not help you make the right first impression. I would not go out again with a woman who shows up drunk on our first date, and most of the women I know wouldn’t go out again with a man who would show up drunk on a first date.
Signals You Don’t Have Your Life Together
If someone shows up drunk on a first date, it may be a sign of other problems in their life. You want your date to think you have your life together, but more importantly, you should have your life together. I find it difficult to believe that a man who shows up drunk for a first date has his life together, and most likely, your date will think the same.
You won’t Work on Your Nerves By Drinking.
One reason you may be getting drunk before a date is because you are nervous. If that is the case, there are better ways to work on your nerves than drinking. You aren’t going to work on improving anything in your life if you are drunk. A better way to work on date nerves is to just go on a date sober, accepting the fact that you are nervous. If you do this over time, you may start to get over your nervousness little by little. You’re not going to fix anything when you are drunk.
Shows a Lack of Confidence
I do not think anyone would say, “This guy showed up to our date drunk last night. That was such a confident move”. That’s not happening. Showing up drunk to a date shows a lack of confidence. If you need to get drunk before a date, you probably do not have a great deal of confidence. Being drunk on a date seems like a low-confidence move to me. Maybe you could build confidence by going out on dates without drinking first. Working on yourself is a great way to build confidence in yourself.
Could Make Her Uncomfortable
If she is sober and you show up drunk, this runs the risk of making her uncomfortable. I think you should have more consideration for your date and not make them uncomfortable. I went on a date with a woman once who got hammered on the date and kept telling me I should drink more. That date was just one big mess. I definitely didn’t see her again; the night was a waste. Do you want to run the risk of meeting a woman who thinks this way about you?
It’s Better to Remember the Date
This one should be obvious, but I think it would be better to remember the date. If you get too drunk maybe, you won’t remember everything. I think it’s good to reflect on your date and think about how to improve for future dates if it goes poorly. It’s also good to remember your conversations if you are going to see her again. I suppose that doesn’t matter because the chances she will see you again should be low when you show up drunk. If it went well, you should want to remember it, so maybe consider showing up to dates sober.
You Can Lose Impulse Control
When you are drunk, you can lose impulse control, and that is a problem for first dates. You might try to spend the whole time getting your date to go home with you. If you are drunk you might say something you will regret. Just do your best to do your best. Doing your best doesn’t involve getting drunk, asking her to go home with you on a first date, or saying something stupid. You want to be polite and kind on a first date; you should want her to feel comfortable. Let’s all commit to doing better.
She May Draw Conclusions
If you show up to a date drunk, your date may jump to some conclusions about you. I most certainly would. She might think you have a drinking problem, that you don’t take the date seriously, or you just want to hook-up. Let’s make good first impressions and positively present ourselves when going on a first date. Most importantly, let’s try to be the best version of ourselves, not just when on a first date but always. That means all dates but also in life. Try to do your best.
You Should Be Your Best Self on a Date
When you go on a date, you should be your best self. You should also try to be your best self in all aspects of life. I do not think showing up drunk is putting your best foot forward on a first date. Just try to do the best you can to be the best date you can be.
If you want more tips on how to make a good first impression on a first date, I have another post on 10 Things a Man Should Do on a First Date.
You Shouldn’t Have to Drink
If you have to drink before a date, you might be drinking too much. You shouldn’t have to drink to do anything. I don’t actually believe you have to drink before your date. I think you are perfectly capable of going on a date without drinking. Maybe you just think you have to, but you can try not to.
If you have a drinking problem and feel like you need help, then you need to get help. Good luck going on first dates sober, and if you need help, good luck getting it.
